Understanding Innocence

In our society, innocence is often revered as a precious quality in children—an embodiment of purity, joy, and wonder.

It’s the gleam in a child’s eye upon discovering the world, the laughter that bubbles forth without reservation, and the unquestioning trust they place in those around them.

However, innocence is not just a state of being; it’s a fragile cloak that can be stripped away in various ways.

As parents, caregivers, and educators, we stand at the frontline of defense, protecting our children from these modern-day perils.

We must be vigilant guardians, monitoring their online activities, setting firm boundaries, and engaging in honest conversations about the dangers they may encounter.

But our duty doesn’t end there. I believe we have to understand what we are safeguarding.

Observing Influence

Recently, my nephew moved away, providing context for my reflections. While he lived in the same state as me, he attended church every time its doors opened.

His mother, my sister, is still grappling with life’s challenges. Life throws curveballs, and sometimes, we cope with what we know.

Despite his exposure to outside influences, which needed careful handling, my nephew was deeply involved in church.

Recently, I noticed a change in him. He seemed cooped up in his room more often, contrary to his usual outdoor activities like playing, riding bikes, and exploring.

Unlike many kids today, he wasn’t much into video games. My family and I were raised to enjoy outdoor activities or take walks to the store. My aunt often took us out to stretch our legs.

Seeing him confined to his room was a departure from his usual self, yet this seemed to preserve innocence.

Observing the influences around him, particularly his older cousin’s lifestyle and music taste, worried me.

My heart ached, fearing his innocence might be eroded by these influences. That might seem overboard, but have you ever encountered someone in a bad state and wondered about their childhood?

What made them who they are? What influenced such behavior in that person’s life? Or what could have been done to preserve the innocence of that child?

Influence

Influence from people, places, and things can shape our children’s minds. They will start to mirror what they see and hear and will most definitely try to repeat it, especially in this day and age.

Since the internet, games, and social media have taken us by storm, we can see even more that it’s high- time for us to be more vigilant.

Children today are exposed to a barrage of media content, much of which is not age-appropriate.

From explicit advertisements to violent video games, the messages they encounter can shape their perceptions and behaviors in profound ways.

Moreover, the anonymity of the internet allows harmful individuals to target and exploit vulnerable children, posing a threat to their innocence and safety.

Today, TV and the internet hold immense sway, often overtaking parental guidance. The pressures of work and bills compel parents to resort to screens as babysitters, oblivious to the repercussions for their children.

This is not about passing judgment or assigning blame, but about igniting a sense of urgency for change. I, too, have been complicit in this, succumbing to the demands of a job that deems me expendable.

The relentless bills dictate that they must be paid, lest my child and I find ourselves without food or shelter.

Awareness

Now that I have a child of my own, I keenly recognize the influences I wish to shield her from.

I avoid music or messages that degrade rather than inspire. I do my best to screen what she watches, especially on YouTube and Netflix.

My husband and I make a deliberate effort to switch off the TV and spend quality time with her.

Whether it’s outdoors at a park for 30 minutes to an hour, kicking a soccer ball, or even playing hockey indoors. While some parents might find this unrealistic, every moment counts.

Cooking together or driving to get something to eat can become cherished moments. Every second is valuable, offering an opportunity for connection.

Even if you have more than one child, each deserves one-on-one time. Allocate 15 minutes or take PTO, a day off, or sick leave if necessary. Get to know your child, and let them get to know you.

Every day, I gain deeper insight into what Jesus meant when he urged us to become like little children.

As he sat a child among his disciples, he explained that whoever humbles themselves like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven (Matthew 18:2-4).

It’s a testament to a child’s humility and innocence—the absence of shame in their beliefs. Their teachable spirit and eagerness to learn are what make them truly great.